Wednesday, April 2, 2008

Chinese Fire Drill



One of the crazier aspects of China that I have yet to write about is the traffic. Apparently things like lanes, traffic lights, stop signs, and other directions that we take for granted in the U.S.A. here are merely suggestions. Suggestions that most of the drivers here don't heed! I promise that no matter where in America you think you have seen crazy drivers, it can't compare to China. The buses, taxis, and other vehicles pass literally within fractions of an inch of each other as they jockey for position and no one seems to give it a second thought. Add into the mix pedestrians, bicycles, and an odd assortment of other motorized vehicles (today we literally saw a bicycle with a motor added to it; not a moped, but a bike with something like a lawn mower motor mounted on it!) and it is almost like watching the 3 Stooges just to sit and look at traffic. All of the news that we hear about China and India being the reason for rising gasoline costs at home appears to be more hype than anything. Gas is just as expensive if not more so here, and most of the people are either walking, riding bikes, or public transportation. Personal vehicles are just too costly for the commoner here. Occasionally we have seen luxury cars like a BMW or Jaguar but it is very rare, and I can't imagine wanting to risk that kind of car in this traffic. The highways aren't much different, there is quite a bit of shipping, but no more so than in America and the trucks that they use to transport goods aren't nearly as big as at home.

Today was one of my favorite days so far on the trip. First off we went about an hour outside of Guangzhou to a park area, but since it was still raining we didn't stay there for very long. Then we came back to town and stopped at a traditional village where the people still grow and sell fruits and vegetables. It was very cool to see the common people and the way that they live. The lady in the picture was selling fresh starfruit that she had grown, and other people were just going about their daily life. There were  a few Taoist temples where the people pay their respects to deceased family  members. The Chinese call it ancestor worship, but it seems to me that it is not too different than the way that we put flowers and other items on the graves of our loved ones to honor them. One of the things that I find very cool about China is that there are several major religions and no one is judgmental about the religion of someone else, and everyone seems to have a lot of knowledge about all of the various religions. Whether you agree with what they believe or not, there is something beautiful about seeing the passion of the different people worshipping in their own way.

Audrey had a good day. We got our first big belly laugh today. Thanks to everyone for all of the words of advice and encouragement. She definitely has had limited interaction with men, her orphanage director told us that there are only two men who are there regularly and neither of them are caregivers, so she hasn't ever seen a man in that role in her life. The good news is that I still have never changed a diaper in my life (Go Mommy!). I think once she gets home and isn't exposed to her native culture and people on a daily basis she will make great progress.

Tomorrow we go for Audrey's health exam. We already know, from our time with her, what the result will be. She is every bit the healthy 16 month-old, who is ready to come home and meet the rest of her family.

5 comments:

Anonymous said...

I have been reading your blog every day and an VERY excited to meet my new niece. I know that she will come to love you as much as mommy. If I had to guess, she'll probably be a "daddy's girl" in the end.
I haven't posted sooner because I just figured out how this morning, but I have been visiting the site EVERY day.
Keep posting the pix, I love to watch how she has changed since you got her. I can see the change even in the photos.
I can't wait to meet her.
Love you guys,
Aimee

Anonymous said...

Just a note to encourage you all to continue using signing with Audrey. I just spoke to a kindergarten teacher that uses signing in all aspects of her classroom and lunchroom too. She spoke to be about the universality (sp?) of signing. It eliminates alot frustration and agitation for the child. She said "drink", "more" etc were good words to start with. Have a happy day and know we are thinking of you. Love to you from Aunt Lisa

Meredith said...

We love all of the pictures! Audrey is so adorable...love the sunglasses!! Brad, I know she will look up to you and love you just as much as mommy someday very soon. We are so happy for all three of you. We can see that both of you are already amazing parents to precious little Audrey and what a lucky girl she is to have you for her parents. We can't wait to meet her!
Love,
Meredith, Drew & Madeline

Anonymous said...

My last comment didn't post, so I will try again. I agree with Audrey's aunt as to the effectiveness of signing. Some believe that signing discourages verbal communication...not true. It is shown to actually enhance communication. I think you hit the nail on the head with your assessment of interactions with males, or lack of. You look different and sound different than anyone she has ever been in contact with. I doubt seriously that she has ever seen anyone with facial hair. The fact that she interacts with Lori further supports the idea that it's a "male" issue and not particularly an attachment issue. If she wouldn't interact with Lori, that would be more of a reason to worry. I mentioned earlier to you about SoonerStart. They work with families of children from birth to three years of age. (I worked there before taking a School Psychologist position at Mid-Del Schools.) THey would certainly be helpful in addressing social and communication issues. Children with delays in cognition, communication, adaptive skills, motor skills and social skills qualify for services. They would come to your home and it's free through the State Dept of Education and State Health Dept. I know this has been a very long and challenging week and a half for you. WHen you think about the dramatic change for Audrey, I think she's coming along as well as could be expected. I predict by this time next year, she'll be attached to YOUR hip, Brad. Don't get discouraged.
Judy

kyle and paula said...

brad,
you really should think of becoming a writer!
lori,
it is really cool to see you holding not only a baby, but your little girl.
audrey quin,
Jack and Kent have been getting the play ground and the play room all ready for you to come play, jack wants to know if you will play cars with him and kent wants to know if he can teach you to vacuum and do laundry, and he also wants you to know that when you all play school together he gets to be the teacher because he is bigger- per kent!
we love you all so much and are counting the days until we get to see you again.
much love and prayers, kyle, paula, kent and jack